If you are at all like me then you probably have tried many different things to make money online, and probably have failed multiple times also. This constant cycle of failure can have a negative impact on your mindset and the self-talk in your head says:
“Well, it didn’t work that time…let’s see if THIS works”.
“Nothing works for me”.
“It works for others but never for me.”
“This make money online thing is a scam.”
When you are going through this cycle of failure it seems that everyone else is able to make it happen but you, so what should you do?
Not to long ago I came across an article by Bob Doyle the CEO & Founder of Boundless Living that answers this very question and it had a powerful impact on my mindset so It is only appropriate that I make this the first post on my blog…
How To STOP Being A Person That NOTHING Seems To Work For ~ by Bob Doyle
Do you ever wonder why great things happen to some people but not to you?
Do you ever read about people who have tried this or that product and had some incredible result, but when you try it, you don’t get the same result?
Have you become a person who NOTHING seems to work for?
Maybe you’ve thought about trying some new self-improvement package that sounds great, but you’re just so tired of things not working for you.
Let’s take a look at how you’ve gotten where you are and why these things might happen.
First, at some point, you tried something – either based on a recommendation, a testimonial you read, or some other reason. Basically, you tried it based on someone else’s positive experience.
However, when you tried it, you did not get the same result so you made the assumption that it didn’t work for you.
But how true IS this?
Often – VERY often – things work differently for different people, and it’s a mistake to judge your life by comparing it with others. Perhaps you just needed more time. Maybe your circumstances are completely different! Regardless, however, you made up – you CREATED a Truth for yourself at that time, that truth being “This didn’t work”, although remember, that truth is based only on your surface comparison with someone else…and it really doesn’t have anything to do with you, and what – in the cosmic scheme of things – is best for you.
Those results you read about for that other person are what was right at that time for them, and that doesn’t necessarily mean that NOW is the time for you and that it will happen to you the same way that it happened for them!
From then on, everything else you try is then compared to that first experience, with the Truth in your mind being “Well, it didn’t work that time…let’s see if THIS works”. So again you’re comparing…and not really trying anything “purely” and on its own merit without preconceived notions or judgements.
You are already working against yourself!
You may not yet automatically expect failure, but you have it as an option, and perhaps even a probability based on your previous experiences.
The more things you try with this mindset, the more you fortify this mindset – it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that “Nothing works for me”. Before you know it that is who you become. The person you are about, reaching your specific goals or trying this or that product or technology is, “It works for others but never for me.” Once you reach that place, it will most certainly become true for you.
So what do you do?
How do you break out of this pattern?
First, acknowledge how you got here…by comparing yourself or your results with other people who are really on a completely different path then you, although they may have been after similar results. Then create a new idea for yourself – give yourself permission to experience success on your own terms, without judging what happens based on other people or expectations set up by anyone other than yourself.
Once you believe that you deserve to succeed and that you CAN succeed and that you WILL succeed, your life will change. Whatever you try will work for you, because YOU define what “working” is – not somebody else! You set your own timetable, you are relaxed, and non-judgmental. Your infinite patience and lack of expectation based externally, will work with you in very powerful ways and you will regain control over your destiny.
So to paraphrase here are the 4 steps that guarantee your success online:
- First, acknowledge how you got where you are.
- Then create a new idea for yourself.
- Define for yourself what “working” is.
- Set your own timetable
So change your mindset of how you view your success online, that is nobody’s business but your own! We all go at our own speed and you will achieve success in your own time. The only way you truly fail is if you quit! and neither one of us wants that.
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